I've been wondering about all of the violence that has come from the grand juries decisions on 2 occasion not to indite 2white offers for 2 black men death. Both of these situation were in different towns and under different circumstances.
How does the black Americans think that we can see them as different or even equals when now they have become the bullies in our society?
When you offer up violence, anger, hatred, destruction of personal property all the while screaming for justice, do you really think you've proven your case?
Those of us standing on the outside of these decision don't have anything to do with what has been done, or not done. Yet, others' suffer at your hands and you want equally in treatment.?
You are now the law breakers, the bullies against all of society, but at the same time you expect to be treated better. Isn't that's what you're asking for, right?
How do you think this kind of behavior will get that for you? All of you that participate in this type of bad behavior only further prove that you hate white American far greater than you think white America even cares to hate you.
I truly believe that white America doesn't concern itself with anger like you do.We would move on to better social equality if you would only let us.
Stop bullying white America, get on with your lives. Work to gain employment, education and better yourselves. No one gave me a hand out or a bell out. I had to work and work hard to get somewhere.
I was born a poor white girl from Tech Wood, in Atlanta, Georgia. I don't bully and I don't hate, I work and pray for a better tomorrow, time better spent in my mind.
Peace y'all.
CJ
Thursday, December 4, 2014
Wednesday, October 1, 2014
Mankinds Power
I'm always amazed at how awful and unkind mankind can be with the human race. So often I wonder why it is that any one group of people think that they have the right to decide for all of mankind how to think, worship and live.
This is perhaps the very worse of all ideas that we can enforce on any other being. Each human has the right to chose how they wish to live. This includes to basic concept of religious beliefs, political ideas and the right to earn a living fairly for their trade or talents.
It is no secret that I worship God, the Father. I make no apologies that I am a Christian and live by faith, but having said that I also recognize that others have the same right to worship however it suits them. When mankind takes on the task of assigning religious beliefs, murdering those that will not yield to their ideology then in a word that is bullying.
Too often we think of the concept of bullying only in the fashion of children on a school bus, or in the hallways or classroom of a school. Maybe we think of a bully in the same way of someone that would abuse a child, an animal or a spouse or loved one.
We too often limit our idea of bullying and don't seem to include those that would murder the innocent person who only wants to live according to their own ideals and beliefs.
My hope and prayer is that some how as a world full of diversified people, we can finally accept that we didn't create this world and in the long run we will never truly own it.
Bullying comes in all forms, shapes and sizes from all corners of the world. It is up to each of us to finally put on our peaceful hats and work together to love one another in my book as God has loved us.
In simple terms, we must do better to treat each other with love. It is just that simple of a task. Nothing more, nothing less will ever do.
God bless each of you on your journey to peace and kindness.
CJ
This is perhaps the very worse of all ideas that we can enforce on any other being. Each human has the right to chose how they wish to live. This includes to basic concept of religious beliefs, political ideas and the right to earn a living fairly for their trade or talents.
It is no secret that I worship God, the Father. I make no apologies that I am a Christian and live by faith, but having said that I also recognize that others have the same right to worship however it suits them. When mankind takes on the task of assigning religious beliefs, murdering those that will not yield to their ideology then in a word that is bullying.
Too often we think of the concept of bullying only in the fashion of children on a school bus, or in the hallways or classroom of a school. Maybe we think of a bully in the same way of someone that would abuse a child, an animal or a spouse or loved one.
We too often limit our idea of bullying and don't seem to include those that would murder the innocent person who only wants to live according to their own ideals and beliefs.
My hope and prayer is that some how as a world full of diversified people, we can finally accept that we didn't create this world and in the long run we will never truly own it.
Bullying comes in all forms, shapes and sizes from all corners of the world. It is up to each of us to finally put on our peaceful hats and work together to love one another in my book as God has loved us.
In simple terms, we must do better to treat each other with love. It is just that simple of a task. Nothing more, nothing less will ever do.
God bless each of you on your journey to peace and kindness.
CJ
Monday, July 7, 2014
The Passive Bully
Did you ever stop and think about how many ways there are to bully? Aggressive behavior is so easy to disguise as something else. Over the years I have seen so many people which include friends and family go about handling various situations in different modes of aggression.
Bullying another human being is very easy. It doesn't take screaming, pushing or profanity. Often times all it takes is a little passive aggression to make another person uncomfortable.
I know, I have a friend that I have known for the better part of 30 years years now. For the most part I always thought of us as "good" friends, on the same page. We always seemed to respect each other and could talk about everything. Lately I have come to the conclusion that within that friendship is a hidden bully. She wants people to believe that she has been done wrong by everyone she has known all of her life, or that life just isn't fair when it it comes to her and her alone.
Somehow that quiet calm personality that she so easily displays has many faces attached to it. I believe that when there is an existing problem between people, especially adults talking it out face to face is the best policy.
How can anything be resolved when you talk about a problem to everyone, but the person that you have a problem with?
Nothing can be resolved unless a reasonable solution is sought and to passively tippy toe around the problem resolves nothing.
The problem that reared it's ugly head only happen because of my friends' jealousy. She has so many failed relationship due to her own actions or lack there of. Refusing to come to me and talk this situation out, stomping around my house, acting as though I didn't exist all the while talking to my dog, my husband, my son and his wife and my grand daughters while they were visiting seem to be her way of getting around the problem and proving her point to me
How childish. Her only daughter even called me wanting to know if I would go to her and resolve the matter because she didn't want to hear about it anymore.
What was the problem? Here was a friend who had no place to live except in my home and yet she couldn't or wouldn't come to me and talk about whatever problem she thought was between us.
Her behavior was nothing more than passive aggression, a form or bullying. I was willing to talk to her about anything she felt a need to discuss, but she had created this anger. It was her place to come to me. If she thought that there was a reason for her to be mad, okay, but I'm your friends(supposedly) so come and talk to me.
Lying about what you think has happen or what you think someone has said about you is just childish to me.
I have dealt with this same kind of behavior over and over and over. I'm a 58 year old woman, not a five year old child, do not treat me like one.
Passive Bullying happens more often than most of us even think about. Someone may not raise hell, scream, shout or cuss at you, but still there behavior is bullying.
I do not and will not tolerate bullying of any kind. If you have something you need to say, then say it. Resolution is only found when it is sought out with respect.
We all need to respect one another, it's the only way our lives can be lived in peaceful accord.
Be kind always, it counts!
CJ
Bullying another human being is very easy. It doesn't take screaming, pushing or profanity. Often times all it takes is a little passive aggression to make another person uncomfortable.
I know, I have a friend that I have known for the better part of 30 years years now. For the most part I always thought of us as "good" friends, on the same page. We always seemed to respect each other and could talk about everything. Lately I have come to the conclusion that within that friendship is a hidden bully. She wants people to believe that she has been done wrong by everyone she has known all of her life, or that life just isn't fair when it it comes to her and her alone.
Somehow that quiet calm personality that she so easily displays has many faces attached to it. I believe that when there is an existing problem between people, especially adults talking it out face to face is the best policy.
How can anything be resolved when you talk about a problem to everyone, but the person that you have a problem with?
Nothing can be resolved unless a reasonable solution is sought and to passively tippy toe around the problem resolves nothing.
The problem that reared it's ugly head only happen because of my friends' jealousy. She has so many failed relationship due to her own actions or lack there of. Refusing to come to me and talk this situation out, stomping around my house, acting as though I didn't exist all the while talking to my dog, my husband, my son and his wife and my grand daughters while they were visiting seem to be her way of getting around the problem and proving her point to me
How childish. Her only daughter even called me wanting to know if I would go to her and resolve the matter because she didn't want to hear about it anymore.
What was the problem? Here was a friend who had no place to live except in my home and yet she couldn't or wouldn't come to me and talk about whatever problem she thought was between us.
Her behavior was nothing more than passive aggression, a form or bullying. I was willing to talk to her about anything she felt a need to discuss, but she had created this anger. It was her place to come to me. If she thought that there was a reason for her to be mad, okay, but I'm your friends(supposedly) so come and talk to me.
Lying about what you think has happen or what you think someone has said about you is just childish to me.
I have dealt with this same kind of behavior over and over and over. I'm a 58 year old woman, not a five year old child, do not treat me like one.
Passive Bullying happens more often than most of us even think about. Someone may not raise hell, scream, shout or cuss at you, but still there behavior is bullying.
I do not and will not tolerate bullying of any kind. If you have something you need to say, then say it. Resolution is only found when it is sought out with respect.
We all need to respect one another, it's the only way our lives can be lived in peaceful accord.
Be kind always, it counts!
CJ
Tuesday, April 1, 2014
From the mouth of babes
How sad it is for me as a grandparent, humanist and, yes I'm going to say this so please don't be offended, a christian that my granddaughter of only 10 post on my bully site.
How did we get this far into ugliness? Haven't we as parents, grandparent, aunts, uncles , teacher, preachers or any other person out there had enough of CHILDREN causing harm to one another.
How much longer and further does this madness have to go? We have children at all ages bring weapons to school while our government officials are debating whether or not guns should be permitted in our place of worship.
Have we as society really let this ugly thing known as bullying get so far out of hand that our children now carry the rage that was honestly built a long, long time ago.
I have to say that it makes me sick to watch the news these days. I would rather watch reruns of old T.V. shows from my youth than to view how many people are willing to kill each other in a day.
It is incumbent upon the souls of the adults to stand up and shout as loud as we can, do whatever we must to stop the violence. Our children must not be allowed to carry this debt.
When did teaching our children the real meaning of love and respect just go out the door. When did we stop caring for one another.
I don't care who you are, how much influence you have or how much money you may or may not have in your bank account, we are all children of God. My God, your God, however your chose to believe. But trust me as I sit here in this room writing this I will never believe that any God would want this constant bullying going on.
From out of the mouth of babes my granddaughter made a stand against bullying. I know exactly how she feels and it doesn't feel good at all. Many people have the idea that when a person is bullied they will just simply grow up and it's over. NOT SO. The pain that is inflected on your soul and your spirit stays with you forever.
I still remember how being bullied myself felt and I'm an "old" lady now. At 58 do you really think I can't remember what was done to me and how far those awful people pushed my soul and hopes down?
Not one day goes by that I don't remember feeling like dirt and just wanting to die. Being dead seemed like a far better choice than having to go to school and face all that meanness, and the madness that I was trapped in.
Love is often times not easy, but it leaves no scares. For the love others', our children and all of those persons that have been bullied before can we not try harder to be kind to one another and stop the craziness we call bullying. Are we just going to stand by and watch it all implode on us?
Teach your children how to love, not hate and not to hurt. In the end it is a far greater place to be here sharing love, not hitting, name calling or shooting bullets at one another.
No God would approve or want us to bully each other. Make an effort, make a stand.
BE KIND TO ONE ANOTHER FOR OUR CHILDREN'S SAKE.
CJ
How did we get this far into ugliness? Haven't we as parents, grandparent, aunts, uncles , teacher, preachers or any other person out there had enough of CHILDREN causing harm to one another.
How much longer and further does this madness have to go? We have children at all ages bring weapons to school while our government officials are debating whether or not guns should be permitted in our place of worship.
Have we as society really let this ugly thing known as bullying get so far out of hand that our children now carry the rage that was honestly built a long, long time ago.
I have to say that it makes me sick to watch the news these days. I would rather watch reruns of old T.V. shows from my youth than to view how many people are willing to kill each other in a day.
It is incumbent upon the souls of the adults to stand up and shout as loud as we can, do whatever we must to stop the violence. Our children must not be allowed to carry this debt.
When did teaching our children the real meaning of love and respect just go out the door. When did we stop caring for one another.
I don't care who you are, how much influence you have or how much money you may or may not have in your bank account, we are all children of God. My God, your God, however your chose to believe. But trust me as I sit here in this room writing this I will never believe that any God would want this constant bullying going on.
From out of the mouth of babes my granddaughter made a stand against bullying. I know exactly how she feels and it doesn't feel good at all. Many people have the idea that when a person is bullied they will just simply grow up and it's over. NOT SO. The pain that is inflected on your soul and your spirit stays with you forever.
I still remember how being bullied myself felt and I'm an "old" lady now. At 58 do you really think I can't remember what was done to me and how far those awful people pushed my soul and hopes down?
Not one day goes by that I don't remember feeling like dirt and just wanting to die. Being dead seemed like a far better choice than having to go to school and face all that meanness, and the madness that I was trapped in.
Love is often times not easy, but it leaves no scares. For the love others', our children and all of those persons that have been bullied before can we not try harder to be kind to one another and stop the craziness we call bullying. Are we just going to stand by and watch it all implode on us?
Teach your children how to love, not hate and not to hurt. In the end it is a far greater place to be here sharing love, not hitting, name calling or shooting bullets at one another.
No God would approve or want us to bully each other. Make an effort, make a stand.
BE KIND TO ONE ANOTHER FOR OUR CHILDREN'S SAKE.
CJ
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
when CJ's granddaughter gets bullied
Hi, CJ's granddaughter here I'm here to tell you about when I got bullied and as I still continued to be bullied. I'm in the 5 grade and I still get bullied by girls in my class. A girl named Sydeny bullies and picks on me. I get very up set when she does that to me. She picks on me about who I choose as friends, but any of CJ followers who have sons or daughters who get bullied I know how it feels.
This is a personal note from her granddaughter Hailee. Thanks if you read this, be safe and be kind to one and other. Hailee out.
This is a personal note from her granddaughter Hailee. Thanks if you read this, be safe and be kind to one and other. Hailee out.
Tuesday, December 24, 2013
Separation
It is an awful feeling inside of me, knowing yet again I spend Christmas estranged from my family. So often I have prayed that God would me help find an answer to problem that has wedged itself between me and my beloved family.
How can I convince another person that I am not the enemy? What words should I use. A portion of my holiday cheer is flat. I continue to hold out hope, that the family person that started all of this could see how much better we are as an united front.
This is not how family is suppose to be. After all when the person that has been my best friend my whole life turns on me taking others' with her what am I to d? For what? Material things that did not belong to her in the first place. How much more can a person have than what they need to survive on?
I am sorry for the split that has occurred, but having said that, I will not be bullied even by a beloved family member especially when words are so cruelly twisted.
Separation, how is this working for any of us? There are six children in my family, there should be no sides to chose.
We are family, brothers and sister each one of us. Separation, how is this working for any of us, not at all.
All there is left to say, I pray for all of my siblings, that they have a blessed life, holiday and that life treats them far better than they are treating me.
Separation, I don't recommend it to anyone, especially family.
We are all of the same blood, we are family. God bless you all.
Happy hugs,
CJ
How can I convince another person that I am not the enemy? What words should I use. A portion of my holiday cheer is flat. I continue to hold out hope, that the family person that started all of this could see how much better we are as an united front.
This is not how family is suppose to be. After all when the person that has been my best friend my whole life turns on me taking others' with her what am I to d? For what? Material things that did not belong to her in the first place. How much more can a person have than what they need to survive on?
I am sorry for the split that has occurred, but having said that, I will not be bullied even by a beloved family member especially when words are so cruelly twisted.
Separation, how is this working for any of us? There are six children in my family, there should be no sides to chose.
We are family, brothers and sister each one of us. Separation, how is this working for any of us, not at all.
All there is left to say, I pray for all of my siblings, that they have a blessed life, holiday and that life treats them far better than they are treating me.
Separation, I don't recommend it to anyone, especially family.
We are all of the same blood, we are family. God bless you all.
Happy hugs,
CJ
Wednesday, October 2, 2013
Silent Enemy
I don't know how many times in my life people have reign over me whether it was physically, mentally or especially emotionally. Don't misunderstand me, I'm not an easy push over when it comes to managing my life on most occasions. However, I will do my best to find the path of lest resistance if at all possible.
I grew up in a home where my parents as loving and caring for us as they were, seemed to enjoy the weekly volatile arguments that occurred on Sundays after church. Humm... I think how is it that my father appeared to be such a strong man, yet each week that passed by he always allowed my mom's opinion and position to reign over his.
From earliest of childhood I feared my mother perhaps as much as I loved, but then again, maybe not.
Maybe it was that kind of fear that had become her weapon of control. For as long as I can remember it was that silent enemy, the one that no one else could see that was the driving force in our family's dynamics.
It would be the guiding force that eventually gave me purpose more than anything else to leave home.
Often times we all act like one person while we are actually someone else. It is how we move through life undetected, never revealing our true selves.
Bullying can come in so many forms. It can come in the beginning of childhood forever molding the future path of an individual. It may show up during the teen years as the fire begins to burn brighter and brighter as it finds a way to become a central part of your life, forever. Creeping along as we grow older each day the scars that form from that silent enemy will last a lifetime.
Be aware, be very aware that you're not that silent enemy. Pray that if you are that you can see the damage that it can do and seek help.
If you are not the silent enemy, don't fall prey to it's form. It will consume every ounce of your being until nothing of the real you remains, and that is the worse enemy of it.
Go in peace. Act in peace and let the silent enemy go before it ruins you forever.
I grew up in a home where my parents as loving and caring for us as they were, seemed to enjoy the weekly volatile arguments that occurred on Sundays after church. Humm... I think how is it that my father appeared to be such a strong man, yet each week that passed by he always allowed my mom's opinion and position to reign over his.
From earliest of childhood I feared my mother perhaps as much as I loved, but then again, maybe not.
Maybe it was that kind of fear that had become her weapon of control. For as long as I can remember it was that silent enemy, the one that no one else could see that was the driving force in our family's dynamics.
It would be the guiding force that eventually gave me purpose more than anything else to leave home.
Often times we all act like one person while we are actually someone else. It is how we move through life undetected, never revealing our true selves.
Bullying can come in so many forms. It can come in the beginning of childhood forever molding the future path of an individual. It may show up during the teen years as the fire begins to burn brighter and brighter as it finds a way to become a central part of your life, forever. Creeping along as we grow older each day the scars that form from that silent enemy will last a lifetime.
Be aware, be very aware that you're not that silent enemy. Pray that if you are that you can see the damage that it can do and seek help.
If you are not the silent enemy, don't fall prey to it's form. It will consume every ounce of your being until nothing of the real you remains, and that is the worse enemy of it.
Go in peace. Act in peace and let the silent enemy go before it ruins you forever.
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